Course Description

If you can’t come to a live workshop, The Art and Science of Love Online workshop is the next best move toward improving your relationship. Statistics show that couples typically wait six years after trouble starts to get help for their relationship. By then, they’re often so resentful and worn down that getting back on track seems impossible.

There is still plenty of hope: the Gottman Institute’s science-based workshop has been shown to help 94% of the couples who use it. Drawn from Dr. John Gottman’s four decades of research with over 3000 couples, the material in The Art & Science of Love rebuilds or increases the friendship, intimacy, and respect in your partnership. Our lab and fieldwork revealed exactly what separates the “masters” of relationships from the “disasters.” And that research enabled us to build a program that teaches everything we’ve learned about creating the kind of partnership we all hope for.

The latest edition of The Art and Science of Love Online was filmed at a live workshop with Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Included with the course:

  • Two days of videos
  • PDF Manual
  • PDF Handouts of Key Concepts
  • Gottman Card Decks app

In short, the online course includes everything you need for the full “Gottman workshop experience” in your own home.

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Course curriculum

  • 1

    Course Introduction & Materials

    • Welcome

    • The Art & Science of Love Online: Couples Workbook

    • Gottman Card Decks - Download Instructions

    • Four Horsemen and Their Antidotes - Handout

    • Aftermath of a Fight: How to Repair After a Fight or a Regrettable Incident - Handout

    • Gottman Repair Checklist - Handout
  • 2

    The Sound Relationship House

    • Getting Started

    • The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

    • The Sound Relationship House
  • 3

    Love Maps & Open-Ended Questions

  • 4

    Fondness & Admiration

    • Sharing Fondness and Admiration

    • Exercise 3: "I Appreciate" Adjective Checklist

    • Turning Towards: Turning Towards During Everyday Events Checklist

    • Exercise 4: Turning Towards During Everyday Events Checklist
  • 5

    Turning Towards

    • Turning Towards: The Stress Reducing Conversation

    • Exercise 5: The Stress-Reducing Conversation

    • Turning Towards: Build Rituals of Connection

    • Exercise 6: Build Rituals of Connection
  • 6

    Sex, Romance, & Passion

    • Sex, Romance, & Passion

    • Exercise 7: Salsa Cards

    • The Positive Perspective
  • 7

    Managing Conflict

    • Managing Conflict

    • Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident - Part 1

    • Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident - Part 2

    • Aftermath of a Fight: How to Repair After a Fight or a Regrettable Incident - Handout

    • Physiology During Conflict & Skill #1: Practice Physiological Self-Soothing

    • Exercise 8A, 8B: Developing a Break Ritual for Flooding and Guided Relaxation

    • Exercise 9: Process a Past Regrettable Incident
  • 8

    The Softened Start-Up

    • Q&A and Skill #2: Use Softened Start-Up

    • Group Exercise: Use Softened Start-Up
  • 9

    Repair & De-Escalate

    • Skill #3: Repair and De-Escalate

    • Gottman Repair Checklist - Handout

    • Skill #4: Listen to Your Partner's Underlying Feelings and Dreams

    • Exercise 10: Choose a Perpetual Gridlocked Problem to Work On

    • Exercise 11: Use Softened Start-Up on Perpetual Gridlocked Issue

    • Exercise 12: Dreams Within Conflict
  • 10

    Accept Influence

    • Q&A and Skill #5: Accept Influence, Honor One Another

    • Skill #6: Compromise

    • Exercise 13: Compromise
  • 11

    Make Life Dreams Come True

    • Q&A and Make Life Dreams Come True

    • Exercise 14: Mission and Legacy

    • The Journey's Next Stage
  • 12

    Additional Resources

    • Course Evaluation

    • What's Next?

    • Related Gottman Products

    • Recommended Handouts to Print - Exercise 3: “I Appreciate…” Adjective Checklist

    • Recommended Handouts to Print - Exercise 13: Compromise

    • Recommended Handouts to Print - The Magic 6 Hours a Week

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Instructors

John Gottman

World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, and Psychology Today.

Julie Gottman

Dr. Julie Gottman is the co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, sexual harassment and rape, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshops for couples, and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.